I can attest to this variable being one with the ability to powerfully and wonderfully transform your marriage in a way that no other variable is able to accomplish. I have experienced marriage with and without this variable. I can honestly say that had my first marriage truly embraced this variable, it would not have ended.
This essential element is one that, if newly introduced into your marriage, will change you and your spouse so deeply and completely that you may not recognize each other at first. Many of you may already have this variable in your life and will agree with me when I say that this element continues to shape and mold you and your marriage each and every day of your life towards health and complete fulfillment of all a marriage is supposed to be.
If you invite this variable into your marriage, you live as the benefactor of a promise to provide you with the wisdom, strength, and support you need to face the everyday challenges in your marriage. You are never alone with your hurts and despair. You always have a source of hope and love on which to lean, on which you can hold in the moments of frustration and pain.
This variable will not relieve your life of problems. Your days will not always be sunny. Perfection is not attained. But you will never again be alone on those dark days. You will never again have to navigate through the storms of your marriage by yourself.
This final essential variable is...
Christ.
Jesus Christ embodies all of the first four essential elements.
He models and perfects a Commitment that never fails and never gives up. A commitment from God Himself to love you, cherish you, and take care of you throughout your entire life and beyond. He offers the only commitment on which you can always count. The strongest and truest commitment that stands all tests of time and troubles.
He was sent to create an avenue of Communication from us directly to our God. He was sent to us as a divine source of communication for God's message to us. He models for us the way to communicate with love, acceptance, patience, and wisdom. He is God's fleshed out example of going to great lengths in order to communicate unconditional love no matter what the cost.
Christ came to Completely Sacrifice His time, His energy, His heart, and His life so that we could enter into a personal relationship with The Creator of the Universe. He sacrificed his life unselfishly and without regret. He sought only to give all He had in order to love us, despite our inability to love Him just as completely. Though He deserves a perfect unconditional love in return, He does not ask for it. He asks only that we would seek to love Him as much as we are able each and every day of our lives.
Jesus is the essence of Community. He is part of the three in one...Father, Son, and Holy Spirit - the original and perfect community. He was sent by God to establish intimate community between God and humans. He focused His entire ministry on creating relationships/friendships with people...creating a community of unconditional acceptance and love filled with joy, peace, and hope for each new day despite the chaos of life. He promises to never leave us, to always stand by us, and to support us no matter how bad life gets. He will always answer when we call, and He will pick us up and carry us when we fall. He is perfect community.
Jesus Christ will transform your marriage and put it on the road toward all that He exemplifies. When He is the foundation of your marriage, He is the source of support and hope and direction. When you seek to see your spouse through the lens of The Christ, you seek to see him/her as one for whom you would give your life, your time, your energy, and your whole heart without asking for anything in return.
He gives you the humility to put aside your pride and say you are sorry and truly mean it.
He gives you the love you need to offer, whether or not you feel your spouse deserves it.
He gives you the strength to stand when life's doubts/worries/problems attempt to overwhelm your marriage.
He gives you the wisdom to navigate through issues and guide your marriage down a lasting path.
He gives you the hope needed to hang on through the toughest times.
He gives you the faith to hold your marriage together, knowing He will carry you through.
I have a question for those who do not believe me? Have you had Jesus in your life? Your Marriage? Have you ever truly committed your life and marriage to Him?
I have a challenge for you...begin to love and treat your spouse as Jesus loves and treats His church and all those whom He befriends. Model Jesus in your marriage and see what happens. I promise you that your marriage will only get better. Seek to follow the example of Jesus in your life and your marriage will follow suit. Wounds will begin to heal and hurts will begin to fade. Love will begin to overwhelm and hope will begin to overcome.
You will find that The Christ is truly the solid foundation on which you will want to place not only your marriage, but your entire life.
For Jesus Christ is The Bridegroom...the perfect example of true Commitment, Communication, Complete Sacrifice and Community.
John the Baptist said it best...
You yourselves are my witnesses that I said, "I am not the Christ, but, I have been sent ahead of Him. He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom's voice. So this joy of mine has been made full. He must increase, but I must decrease." (John 3:28-30)
So also must it be in a healthy and lasting marriage...He must increase and you must decrease.
God Bless, emman
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